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So I've been looking into getting a CR-Z since they launched, I've been saving up my spare cash so I can just go down to the Honda dealer and slap down my cash and drive away. I got the whole thing planned out, Pearl White CVT with a spoiler, diffuser, armrest and illuminated door sills... but then in comes my fiancée and says I don't need a new car. She says we should save the money for our wedding, which is at least 2 years away at this point because she's currently living out of the country for vet school. So anyway, I'm looking for some honest opinions from CRZ drivers on what to do.

The arguments:
Hers:
My car is still fine, it's not that old and still runs perfectly.
Saving money for wedding is awesome.

Mine:
It's my money, any money I spend on the car will be replaced within the next year as it only took me that long to save up enough cash to afford the car.

She is going to need a car in a few months when she moves back to America, so she can have my current car.

The wedding is only the tip of the iceberg when it comes to saving, after the wedding she's going to want a house, and then babies and then I'm 50 and still driving my lousy chevy... or worse an SUV *shudder*


Anyway, I guess I'm just a little frustrated because I really want an CRZ but she's telling me no.
 

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well, from the perspective of a man who was married at one time and allowed my wife to call the shots, I say do what you want with your money. not speaking from a jaded point of view here. just learned a lot of life lessons from going through that experience. if you don't treat yourself well at her insistence, it will eventually breed resentment.

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^ So many places we could go on this. Domestic Bliss is a hard thing to obtain. Usually takes 20 years if you make it that far..

I'll start by saying, (without knowing your financial situation), she is probably right. But, should you exert your manly influence and put your foot down?? Maybe - but guess it depends on what your looking at in-as-much as starting a family. Waiting for several years and want to have a 3 year honeymoon - maybe a CR-Z is a good thing. Gonna do it to it and have a few quickly - Nope the future wife is right..

Of course we know there is much more to the story and dymanics that one could post. So ultimately, only you can make the call..
 

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I'll start by saying, (without knowing your financial situation), she is probably right. But, should you exert your manly influence and put your foot down?? Maybe - but guess it depends on what your looking at in-as-much as starting a family. Waiting for several years and want to have a 3 year honeymoon - maybe a CR-Z is a good thing. Gonna do it to it and have a few quickly - Nope the future wife is right..
I do ok, I currently support myself as well as help out my grandparent and help her with money when she needs it. I'm not saying I don't want a family, I'm just saying I don't want one anytime soon. I generally keep my cars for between 3 and 6 years and this will be no exception, though I could see myself keeping this for longer. Like I said, I think I'm just frustrated is all.

oh, and my family and her's both say I should buy the car lol :pP: to her!
 

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Before my girlfriend and I moved in together we didn't question each others finances in any way.

Then we wanted a house.. decided we could each afford it. We got a joint bank account we call the "house" account. All the bills get paid out of that account. Any furniture, maintenance stuff, etc comes from that account. We add it up each month, split it down the middle and each add that much to the account each month.
Anything else we want, clothes, tools, 1000 pairs of shoes, new car, etc we pay for out of our own personal accounts if we can afford it.
I don't know what would happen if someone couldn't add to the "house" account one month.. but that won't ever happen... gotta be responsible some time.

System works great! Makes way more sense than any other domestic finance system I've heard any friends or anyone work out.. (but I guess I'd think that since it's the system I use)
Oh, we're coming up on 17 years together, if that counts for something. Never once had a financial argument, and those kind of arguments are something that's broken up several friends marriages.

--so according to this philosophy yes, get the car!
 

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if you're going to need a second car when she comes back stateside, then I say you should get the CRZ. Unless she really is pining for a used Kia Rio or something . . .

And it's all about compromise on both sides. Scotty's right about keeping domestic harmony but that goes both ways. If you normally replace cars every 3 to 6 and the wedding is a few years off, then this car won't impact plans much.
 

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Save money for a 1-day ceremony or a fun car?

Kinda easy for me. Maybe that's why I'm 33, divorced, happy as a pig, with paid off house, new car paid for in cash once a year, and very controllable level of stress in life.

Honestly, dude, this is a car forum and your question is not about cars, but about relationships. Some people enjoy being bossed around by their wives (or as they call it - compromise, nothing wrong with that). Some prefer freedom, new people in their life and total control over their fate. In any case this is a much bigger issue than whether to buy a CR-Z with your own hard earned cash.
 

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If she want's to spend 20 large or so on a wedding.. then run like hell! Is she going to pay half of the wedding? If not, I would do a justice of the peace type thing, at the local botanical gardens or something. I have been married twice, and divorced twice.. I made the money.. they wanted to spend it.... screw that! If you don't buy the car.. fine.. but spend the money on something worthwhile... like a house.. not some stupid couple of hours so you can make some photographer rich! My opinion.. of course...
 

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Oh man, you're not even married and already whipped. Sorry brother but if it's your money you need to do what you want. This is coming from someone who is coming up on 25 years of marriage and 2 grown kids. I've never been told what car I can drive or purchase. If this is a sign of things to come "RUN." Haha good luck....
 

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^^ Ah, there is CRaZee.. Where you been?

Straightforward advice. I had a justice of the peace ceremony and never divorced. 50 - eh - I mean 20-something years of blissful marriage - well 20-something years of marriage...

Teasing. Wouldn't trade it in for anything. Hard to find someone to put up with by bullsh!t and take care of me..

Just take measure. Is it about the event or is it about living, eating, sh!tting, Pee'ing and the aftermath together including, washing clothes, Tooth paste and spit in the sink, loose hair - from head and below etc. Who cleans up all that crap, control of the remote, etc etc - and learning to be best friends...

Learning to be best friends...

Edited: I may be fortunate but, I have never had to ask permission to buy a car as long as I was able to keep the wife in a car she liked. CR-Z was my decision with no collaboration required. Best Friends and she trust me and understands it is just a car.

umm, the small modifications I have done so far - well I lets just say I have to "put out" in order to work those on a case by case basis.
 

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Get the car now it may be your last chance. Tell her how much you will save on gas. Run off to Vegas and have a wedding with 6 guests, you will save lots of money, maybe enough to have a start on the down payment for a house.

As somebody else pointed out this is a car forum.

GET THE CAR!
 

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I'm so glad I don't do the whole almost married here have a say in my cash thing lol. I woke up, wanted a new car spent 2 weeks deciding and driving and went and purchased it and I still got laid yesterday.

Take that domestic servitude
 

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Get the car now it may be your last chance. Tell her how much you will save on gas. Run off to Vegas and have a wedding with 6 guests, you will save lots of money, maybe enough to have a start on the down payment for a house.

As somebody else pointed out this is a car forum.

GET THE CAR!
LOL all good points, especially the gas thing... my car only gets 21mpg city. Like I said, I'm gonna end up buying the car, I just like to get confirmation from other people that I'm not being a jerk lol
 

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Lets see, been married and divorced once, engaged three times, and then found the perfect woman and have been together for ten years.

Here's the thing, you guys are not married yet. I am not trying to cast a shadow on your engagement or anything like that but you never know what tomorrow brings. She could find someone else, you could find someone else, she could get cold feet and you could get cold feet and the list goes on..... who knows, so much can happen. Nothing is set in stone until there rings on both fingers and then you try like hell for the rest of your lives to make things work and make each other happy. When your married thats when you should make decisions based on mutual understanding and discussion.

True story, my wife 10 months before we where to marry wanted to get a base Honda Civic. I asked her if she would reconsider and if she really wanted to get a Civic then get the Si.

She got the base Civic.....

It is about fun as watching paint peel on a house but it is her car and she likes it (I hate it). In the end it was her money and we weren't married so there is not much I could do or say.

Now she wants a mini van.................. I rather keep the Civic.
 

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Now she wants a mini van..................
noooo, say it isn't true... :pat::rotfl:

But, then again, might be a little safer having the kids wrapped in a minivan and just think - Soccer mom/dad by day, stylish CR-Z lovers by night.

Sorry doing it again, hijacking the OP's original thread. Hopefully it is all good.
 
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