i did a little more research into the issue, its something that im just gonna have to live with with a white car. its not a sealant failure like i thought.
the issue is called industrial fallout. Its basically microscopic pieces of metal that are airborn around railways, highways, airports. They are statically charged to your car's paint and begin to rust leaving these rust spots. You can generally see them on silver and white cars the most. (my EM2 was silver, go figure!)
To get rid of it you could clay bar, but it wont take all of the metal out and the rust will re appear.
the proven method seems to be an acid wash with an alkaloid wash to neutralize the acid. This will get rid of all the microscopic metal pieces in your paint!
Im going to honda this aft. they have a body shop there and the guys there are really great.
Im taking this one with stride tho i love my CRZ. Im just taking care of business, theres no negativity towards honda on this one
I hope that this stays out there tho for the other PWP cars out there that will get this. Every white and silver car out there will be vulnerable to this. just make sure that you get your car properly waxed and sealed to prevent these woes and you should be golden! Ive been told that a good annual seal and wax is good for the paint. Im going to make sure that this gets done from now on.